Is your child too shy to go out or meet people? Knows everything but hesitates to respond.
Here’s what you can do to improve their self-confidence.
- Comparison- The Biggest Confidence Breaker
Let’s Break it!
As a human being, it is a natural instinct to compare two people on various terms. But, being a parent you have to think twice before doing this. No two children are the same, and neither of their holistic development happens the same way.
Instead of focusing on the comparison, understand and appreciate how your child is different from others. This will help them boost confidence and contributes to the overall personality of your child.
- Encourage small meetings with pals
It is too overwhelming for a kid to be in a social circle they can’t handle. And for a kid who is already shy, a room full of children would be no less than torture.
Limit your child’s playdates with a few pals. As soon as your child becomes comfortable with those children, find some interactive, fun-learning classes nearby to get him around more children.
- Address them by their name
Addressing children by their names is a powerful way to send a message that they are important. This makes them feel valued combined with friendly eye contact.
- Encourage new skills
Children who lack self-confidence often end up being isolated and are scared to try new things. In order to build confidence in a child with low self-confidence, encourage them to take part in new skills and be a contributor to that. Show them how fun it would be to indulge in such activities. This gives them the confidence to handle any situation that comes their way.
- Include them in age-specific chores
Children feel valued and appreciated when involved in a variety of chores. Involve them in household chores such as washing, keeping things from one place to another, washing, gardening, etc.
- Watch your words while introducing them to other
If your child hides behind your leg while saying hi to others, instead of saying “you are shy” say “You feel shy and that’s ok”. A simple change in the words helps them acknowledge how they felt.
- A good role model- How about you?
When you put the effort into doing your things such as cleaning the home, washing utensils, etc. your child learns to put more effort into doing their homework, cleaning toys, gardening, etc.
Also, when you do things cheerfully, your child too learns to do his work without crumbling.
- Let him help and give
Self-esteem grows when they see that what they do matters to others. Kids can help out at home, contribute to school projects, or help their siblings. Helping and kind acts build self-esteem and other positive feelings.
- Praise but don’t overpraise
Praising your child isn’t enough to build self-confidence but praising them the right way is.
Give children genuine and specific compliments focussed more on the efforts than the fixed abilities. Use sentences like “It seems like you made a great painting” instead of saying “great work”.
- Help them set goals
Setting and achieving challenging goals help them feel capable. Help your child stick to a specific goal and habit and monitor them as they progress towards accomplishment.
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